Please address all of the questions below in separate posts of 5-7 sentences each. In addition you will be responding to two of your peers' comments as well for a total of 6 posts.
We are often required to use our experience as a guide for how we must act in any given situation. Sometimes when we are not sure how to act, we interpret cues about what is acceptable or unacceptable based on the reactions we get from others.
- Why do we not use "training" and teaching interchangably in our speech? What connotation, or associated meaning, does each word have and how does it impact your perception of the activity the word is used in connection with, for example, "teaching someone to drive" and "potty training"?
- Is there a difference between telling someone what you expect of their behavior and showing them by training them. How do people telegraph, or send a message about, the treatment they expect from others? Explain.
- Is training a spouse acceptable behavior in a relationship? Are we, as it was suggested, merely human animals with training being another form of communication? Explain.
- The author makes a comparison of training husbands to the animal world. Does this implication reflect her feelings toward him in any way? Use parts of the text to support your rationale.
1.Why do we not use "training" and teaching interchangably in our speech? What connotation, or associated meaning, does each word have and how does it impact your perception of the activity the word is used in connection with, for example, "teaching someone to drive" and "potty training"?
ReplyDeleteWe say we are potty training our children we do not refer to it as potty teaching. As a child learning to play sports they are trained. A person newly hired must come in for job training.
I think the only real difference is a child is not affected when you tell them you are going to train them. A person will not turn down a position because they need to be trained. Only when it comes to feeling like your spouse is trying to change you are you then threatned by the word training.
2. Is there a difference between telling someone what you expect of their behavior and showing them by training them.
ReplyDeleteWell, communication is always important between spoouses. Telling your partner what you expext in their behavior may come off harsh and may offend them, even if you do not mean to. Setting an example in your own behavior will have a better out come. You are in fact training yourself to handle things better without making your partner feel put off.
How do people telegraph, or send a message about, the treatment they expect from others? Explain.
I think a person sends a message of what they expect by the reactment they give. For example, if you give your husband the silent treatment because he was late for a “special dinner” next time it will not slip his mind becvause he does not want the same reoccuring action.
We don’t use “training” and teaching in the same sentence because according to some people their not the same thing. Also because when adults hear that their spouse or partner is training them they get offended and aggravated by that simple idea. On the other hand children don’t really pay any mind to that title. But I believe some people are Hippocrates not wanting to admit it’s the same thing for example when were children it’s okay to say I’m training my son to go to the bathroom. But it’s not okay to say I’m training my husband to pick up after himself. why the double standard? We train children to do things like pick up after themselves and hang up their clothes when they come home from school. And everyone’s okay with this idea until they’re the ones being trained then it becomes a huge problem. How is it that adults find it suitable for children but not for themselves?
ReplyDeleteSometimes we use the word “training” to learn new skills, For example when we want to learn math we train by doing exercises. Teaching is when one teach someone how to use their skills or how to improved. In the other hand both words can be use in the same way. A child is trained to learn new skills like how to use the bathroom, how to play with toys or how to behave. In sport the couch makes one trained harder to improve. At the same time he can teach new ways to play the game even better. Moreover training someone to improve their skills is not the same as teaching someone to learn new skills.
ReplyDelete1.) I’m not sure why people feel like there’s a difference between training and teaching; maybe is a made-out word created for the sole purpose of using it in a civilized human environment. Both words mean basically the same, acquiring of skills. Regardless of that, we can say that when we teach we add knowledge to an individual using communication skills, while when we train, we add knowledge by giving up part of our normal actions to affect someone else behavior, but still, those are both learning methods. I believe that they are both essential for an effective learning experience, for example, we teach a person how to drive a car(how to start the engine, to change speed, etc), but it’s learning won’t be complete until he repeat the same action over and over again, until his body is shaped to react the way expected. Teaching is the first step, and training is the path to mastery. Still, people found the word training to harsh to be used in intellectual affairs, and use the word “practice” instead, which is essentially two correlative words.
ReplyDelete3.Is training a spouse acceptable behavior in a relationship? Are we, as it was suggested, merely human animals with training being another form of communication? Explain.
ReplyDeleteI do not look at it as training your spouse but merely trying to find a different approach such as sitting down and expressing how your partners behaviors may irrate you and what you both can do to fix it. This may actualy train you to learn to handle the small stuff a lot better.
We are humans and like I said in previous answers we are trained in certain ways. Deffinetly not to insult our being but possibly to advance us in the particular situation. Such as a new job, a sport and yes, even train ourselves to better our relationships. So my answer would yes we are merely human animals adapting to a form of training.
2) There is a difference sometimes people don’t understand with simple words. So you have to show them everyone learns differently some people are visual learners some are audio learners. And sometimes we just expect people to know what we like and what we dislike. We send messages by treating people differently. For example if you’re used to treating a person a certain way and then they mistreat you and you radically change your behavior towards them. They know they have two options the first learn from it and don’t do it again or the second one do it again and suffer the consequences of their actions. And that’s how we train the person and lay down boundaries for them.
ReplyDelete2.) When someone is told about what their behavior should be, it listen and understand, interiorize the message and react according if it believes is a fair argument; sadly, once we see we are not been acknowledge for doing the right thing, we immediately forget about it and return to our old routine. When someone is forced to correct its behavior, it transmit he “I’m being manipulated” message, we feel repulsed by the action itself and start hating both the “trainer” and the content of the training; but, after several times repeating the same, our body accept it and start changing even if we are sometimes not aware of it.
ReplyDeleteAmy Sutherland may feel that she has to train her husband like animal because his actions are animalistic. Like huffing and snarling looking for his car keys and when he cannot find them turning it into a big fight. Amy made a comment “I’m using a technique I learned from a dolphin trainer.” Maybe she felt because dolphins are so intelligent almost human like that this was a good idea for her husband Scott too.
ReplyDeleteThe different is that one can learn by communication but not all of us pay too much attention. Showing them how to behave by training them will be the same as communicating, some us won’t do it. In training you can punish them if they don’t do what you want or you can give a reward if he or she does what you want. Probably some of us will feel like a slave or animal by getting train but in order to change their behavior one most do it. Now by communicating will be irritating for some people because some of us don’t listen. Even thought one tells them to not do it they keep doing it, makes one go crazy. One way to stop the bad behavior is doing the same thing until they realize that is bad and then they’ll stop.
ReplyDeleteWhy do we not use "training" and teaching interchangably in our speech? What connotation, or associated meaning, does each word have and how does it impact your perception of the activity the word is used in connection with, for example, "teaching someone to drive" and "potty training"?
ReplyDeleteI would think that perhaps it would be inappropriate to use the word train in certain instances. Such as training my husband. Although it does sound fantastic it would not be soically acceptable. I think that teaching someone to do something may not always be the same as training them. Teaching someone how to fix a car is different than training them on the concept of how to do it. The teaching would be more of a hands on type of learning. In looking at the "potty training" comment, it is something that is common terminology for children.
3)I believe it’s acceptable to train your spouse to make it easier to love them and accept them like Amy said. I don’t believe its right to manipulate anyone. We are human animals the differences is that we have the gift of speech and our brains are a little more complex. But if we think about it were the same thing we feel pain and sadness so do they. We feel happy so do they, they feel almost as much as we do but they can’t express it the same way.
ReplyDelete1) Well we don’t really say that we don’t use them together practically they are like brother and sisters but, of different parents they have the same method of commanding something to be inquired in all their special ways. We make it difficult to understand our self we practically use it for everything in life we just might interpret it a different way that we find it different yet they do the same we see it like the word their and there. Well the two words are the same they both imply the same thing and goal the command is to do something that has been showed or thought. One is teach to be better and learn is to become even better to be able to do something that you’re good but need some more spark on it. So that’s how I find it to be yet different but the continuation of one another.
ReplyDelete2) Well I can tell you like I mentioned before there are no such difference between them it’s the next step that follows one another. Maybe there is a difference cause what you expect may not always be the right thing for the relationship or long-term stay cause some of the effect people see on them is not the first one’s they all start when they were small and may have not had a good education maybe also their parents were too busy working or practically their parents didn’t care how their children were being raised with so low manner and discipline. So they weren’t forced to do something it was like I was like that and why should they it was a different era. Well the partner could be saying it to their face or by their attitude that they have or like telling them what to do it might get ugly but well that’s for telling somebody what to do and what is expected of them well we are individuals we are humans and not all are perfect but we can only say that we can learn of experience. Don’t you think?
ReplyDelete3) Firstly, let may say just by hearing the word train sound’s a little of the line the relationship is of two and as both agreed to be loyal to each other no matter how they were. But, I do also agree that we all have defects we just have to accept that we came like that and maybe never change the way we were raised and may saw our hero’s like parents be like that so we managed to take that in. We can all accept change on both parts of the party is a talk that both should have and discuss not have discussion over a little problem that can be fixed and managed to work on it life is journey that has many ups and downs and both should try to overcome it both I say age is knowledge and life is experience that’s what makes everybody a special person and that is what people need to overcome any obstacle. So have fun life is only lived once so don’t spend much time arguing but working to make the relationship better not worse. Well yes were merely human animals that can talk and walk and see and hear and touch and taste so yes we may be merely human animals that have a brain and a conscious that can tell us what is right and what is wrong and we can learn and also teach others the same as we been thought it’s a life cycle. Life is one and death is another we die and another comes to take our place.
ReplyDelete4) Well what can be inferred from the text is that she does indeed feel tired of not him but of herself for letting it pass all this years of the supposedly happiness came to be but a liven nightmare it all was offered and read to her as a fairy tale but I guess they forgot to tell her about the bad green ogor or the 3 little pigs that comes the wolf to blow the house down and also many more. So yes I guess she does feel bad in her inner feelings she has so low self-esteem so bad she had to go to the extreme that she had to use the method of the one use for animal’s on a person a walking creature like they say or the human animal but not true we can learn from experience and have to overcome it our self we have to know we have the problem not let somebody to show you what is wrong in you the only way to fix the problem is to recognize you have one and fix it yourself.
ReplyDelete4)Amy feels that after she began to train Scott their marriage has gotten better. “ After two years of exotic animal training, my marriage is far smoother, my husband much easier to love.” After you been with someone for a while most people develop tricks and ways to make it easier to continue with that person. I mean everyone has moments when they need to be left alone.You learn to give each other space and other things With time problems increase not because you don’t love or care for each other is just life.
ReplyDeleteIs there a difference between telling someone what you expect of their behavior and showing them by training them. How do people telegraph, or send a message about, the treatment they expect from others? Explain.
ReplyDeleteI believe there is a difference. When you explain to someone what you expect it should be easy. It should be cut and dry. Although of course it is not always that simple. When you try and train someone to act as you want them to the behavior is phony. I would not want to feel that someone is phony when dealing with them. I would rather an honest response.
Is training a spouse acceptable behavior in a relationship? Are we, as it was suggested, merely human animals with training being another form of communication? Explain.
ReplyDeleteI do not think that it is acceptable behavior. However, I spoke to my husband about the article and he says that in a way we do train each other. Sometimes not knowingly of course, but he did make the point that when you do something to counteract the behavior and the spouse accepts that you just in fact did train them. This was a surprise to me. I guess that in a way I have been trained.
1) We dont use training and teaching in our speech since some of us either never really realized there was such a difference with the two. Also i guess we hear it used a certain way so it just comes naturally to say it that way.
ReplyDeleteTo me, teaching and traning is about the samething just the different task you are doin. For example, teaching how to drive you can also say "training me how to navigate a car on the road". Also "potty train" can be also said teaching the baby how to go to the bathroom. They both are to improve a skill and knowlegde.
2)There is a difference between telling someone what you expect of their behavior and showing them by traning them. If you tell them, they have a better understanding of it and it will be easier to work it out. If your training them, your making them almost guess how you want them to be until they get it right. They may not truly understand what you want them to do.
3) Training a spouse in a relationship isnt acceptable because its almost like your thier owner and demanding them to be a certain way. Its better if its talked about not just ignore them.
I think training is a strong word to use especial with children, you mainly use train with animal and sport like football ect. with training i feel like you know that knowledge of what you want to do and training is making it better. Teaching is starting them off... teaching showing then the step by steps in an education role.
ReplyDeleteTheir is a big difference between telling some what to do and training them what to do. you don't train you partner you talk to him, it's called communication, it's healthier in a relationship. Animal you train cause they can't talk and humans you can talk to and they do understand faster... why train or treat your partner and not just communicate the problems? a relationship is not a game.
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